I know you are hurt little boy. I know pain and suffering you have endured all these years. That constant fear of abandonment! Felling unwanted, not good enough, not lovable!

You needed to protect yourself, and you did the best you could.

You don’t need to hide anymore. You are no longer in danger.
You no longer must hold on to this shame, guilt, fear of abandonment, despair and agony.

I let you down for so long, I am sorry, forgive me, I LOVE YOU!

I had not always listened to you, but I’m listening to you now.

You are safe and protected right here, right now. I am here with you with new knowledge and better tolls and I will never go away. You are safe now. We are safe.

YOU and ME!!! It is ok to start letting go!

I know I’ve ignored you for decades. When you were in pain and suffering, looking for me to protect you and guide you, I was not there. Little boy, I want you to know that I did not know better. Now I do and now we can fix this together. Nothing will stop us.

Now I know how and will lead you to me, my Inner Adult, so we can become one!!!!
I hope you forgive me, and I hope you know it is safe for you to express yourself now. To tell me about your fears, pains, problems, to tell me about your needs and wants. I will not judge you, I want to make sure you know this is going to be safe environment for you to tell me everything! So, you can heal! We can heal together!

I’m here for you, I am not leaving and will not let you down.

For decades, you felt alone, abandoned, misunderstood and in unbearable emotional pain. You felt like you were never good enough, not lovable, no matter how hard you tried. You felt like everything was your fault.

You have been scared for too long!

You are great kid who had been through so much pain and you did best to survive. You deserve love, care, peace, safety and emotional freedom!!

Your feelings and emotions are real, nothing is wrong with them, they are for real and you deserve to express them.

There is another way of life, I have learned how to help you and we can do this together. YOU and ME!

I know you’ve always felt confused because emotional needs have always remained unfulfilled.

Your pain is there for a reason. You deserved so much better than what you experienced.

Please know your frustration is not something to be ashamed of — it is a sign that you know your boundaries were crossed and disrespected. You have every right to express it and to stand up for yourself.

I also know that living in such a chaotic environment has developed your empathy. You don’t want anyone to feel the same way. You want everyone to feel loved, cared for, supported, and accepted.

True love does not require being perfect or neglecting yourself. In fact, it gives you the freedom to show who you are and express every single part of your being. You are great little human.

I know how difficult it was for you to go from one place to another and live in unstable environment, where you were constantly trying to avoid the next argument. Wondering where they are going to send me to live next.

I know how much pain, fear and anxiety it has caused you, but please know that was never your fault.

It’s not your responsibility to please everyone. It’s not your duty to exhaust yourself to fulfill everyone’s needs and wants. Your only duty is to take care of yourself.

That’s all.

I hope you find the courage within you to always remember that your worth is not based on others’ validations, judgments and opinions and that you don’t need to please anyone to be loved and adored. I hope you always find the strength to love yourself and respect your emotional needs, even if you were not taught how to do it.

We will learn together!

YOU and ME!!!!

Thank you for being such a brave boy. You kept being kind and good to others when you had so much pain to deal with. You made others feel seen and heard even when you were hurting. You have always been there for others. Now I am here for you!!!!
Now I’m putting us at the forefront. If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to be held, let me hold you. If you need to be heard, then speak. If you need to play and be the child you didn’t get to be, then let us play. I’m not afraid anymore, so you don’t have to be, either.

Your parents loved you, but they, too, carried deep pain inside of them. Pain that they inherited from their parents, and so on down the line. They carried generational trauma, just like you do now.

I hope your heart will always remain open to love and be loved. I hope you will always choose to heal.

I love you dearly, and I will protect you. You are safe. You are loved. You are free.

Samir